Three Key Behaviors That Determine Our Success
Success is a journey and along the way we need to correct
our course by unlearning the behavior that derails us and
invite in a new behavior to continue our success. If you
feel you want to change your success, take a measure of your
current key behaviors.
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Listening
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Listening is not a passive activity. It is unfair to the
person who is speaking to have a person there in body but
not in mind. Just because we are the person being quiet does
not mean we are listening. As a listener we must be in the
present and taking in the speakers message in the proper
context. It's not the time to be thinking about what to have
for lunch or your next witty comeback. Be fair to the
speaker and have a clear and open mind.
Active listening requires us to set aside our own agenda,
uses our best internal language skills, and takes present
energy. The best gift to yourself and your speaker if the
energy isn't available is to say so. Yet, due to the
perception management masks we've learned from society, we
don't usually provide this honest feedback. So, we
passively listen, like pretending as a child to hear, and
say something quick, something we think they want to hear,
just so we can move on.
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Choice
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The Power of Choice is the energy we send out and is exactly
what the Universe sends us back. No choice is a choice too.
I believe that we are where we are today because of the
accumulative effect of all our choices. We made thousands of
choices each day and we control our lives by those choices.
Having the ability to choose equals power. When we don't
choose, you give someone else the ability to make choices
for you, whatever they may be, and you give up any possible
power with it. Once you realize you have the power of
choice, life happens for you, not to you!
Feel your power. It is a powerful resource to success.
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Internal Dialogue
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All day long, everyday, we talk to ourselves. Sometimes we
even talk to ourselves out loud. When we talk to ourselves
what we are really doing is giving commands to our
subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is a very powerful
tool and it can carry out its orders efficiently and
effectively.
We've been listening to ourselves talk for so long, we have
just learned to hear past it. The noise of our inner
dialogue can usually and only be hear if its screaming or if
someone points it out.
This discussion is telling us what we need, how we want it,
and what we will and will not do in order to get it. We
assume, we don't know what we want, until we begin to
listen. Until we begin to stop long enough to ask what it
is that our internal dialogue wants or needs.
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Success Begins Here
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These are the three toughest keys to behaving our way to
success. Are you listening to yourself? Are you listening
to people who are already successful? All excellent
questions to ponder on from time to time. To check in with
our self frequently to see where we stand on them. They are
keys that are continuously evolving as we mature and
actually will not stop. They require gentle nudging, gentle
understanding, gentleness all around.
(c) Copyright, Catherine Franz, 2003, 2004. All rights reserved.
Catherine Franz, a eight-year Certified Professional Coach,
Graduate of Coach University, Mastery University, editor of
three ezines, columnist, author of thousands of articles
website: http://www.abundancecenter.com
blog: http://abundance.blogs.com
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